How a Pink Tutu is Impacting Metastatic Breast Cancer

May 30, 2017 Update 

Today, Bob and Linda continue to support each other and both remain active and committed to their mission to spread laughter and hope and to provide financial support for breast cancer patients and their families.

Read more about how Linda is doing today at the end of this blog post.

Receiving a cancer diagnosis is a life-changing experience, not only for the patient but also for his or her family. Metastatic breast cancer (MBC) – the most advanced form of breast cancer – can be particularly emotional for caregivers to face because they must adjust to the fact that their loved one will have cancer for the rest of her life. While an MBC diagnosis is not something anyone takes lightheartedly, laughter can be helpful to successfully manage the journey.


No one knows this better than Bob Carey, Founder of The Tutu Project, whose wife, Linda was diagnosed with MBC in 2006. As a commercial and fine art photographer for 20 years, Bob has used his love of the medium to spread laughter, hope and support to those living with cancer all over the world. The Tutu Project started as a photo campaign and the project eventually grew into something much larger than he ever imagined.

Linda made it her mission to raise funds to provide financial support for breast cancer patients and their families. She and Bob joined forces to create The Tutu Project, an initiative of The Carey Foundation, which distributes funds raised from donations and sales of Bob’s prints, calendars, t-shirts, postcards, and a currently sold-out book, to help cover expenses typically not covered by insurance, such as transportation, home care, child care and medical supplies. New photos are regularly added to The Tutu Project website and distributed through social media as each project is completed. The decision to wear only the tutu was Bob’s way of pushing the limits and emulating the bravery of cancer patients the best way he could.

Below, Bob discusses his and Linda’s shared journey of living with MBC and how his personal project involving a pink tutu has turned into a worldwide source of comfort, joy and inspiration for not only him and Linda, but also for thousands of women living with MBC.

AstraZeneca: How did the diagnosis of MBC affect you and Linda?

Bob: After being in remission from breast cancer for three years, Linda was diagnosed with MBC in 2006. Even though she had to begin treatment again, it seemed the MBC diagnosis was more emotional and psychological. With her initial breast cancer diagnosis, she understood that it was possible that she could die from this disease, but there was also a great deal of hope based on her surgery and subsequent treatment. When her cancer returned, the concept of hope changed, and the concept of death became a very real fear. Although Linda is a very positive person, which I believe has helped, her MBC diagnosis was the start of an emotional roller coaster for us.


AstraZeneca: Since learning of Linda’s diagnosis, how has The Tutu Project evolved?

Bob: Initially, it was a project to help myself and then became a way to make my wife laugh, as well as bring a bit of humor into our now upside down life. When Linda had a recurrence she took the images with her when she received treatment, and the emotions the photos conveyed seemed to resonate with the other patients.  Now that it’s spread worldwide, I recognize that I have an opportunity to bring laughter and inspiration into the lives of people living with breast cancer.

AstraZeneca: What challenges have you faced being a caregiver?

Bob: The difficult aspects; seeing what Linda goes through daily. Although she’s amazing, it’s hard to not be able to fix everything. One minute she feels good and then the next she doesn’t, I feel kind of helpless. I know our life has changed, but even with MBC Linda is very active and since this project has begun it’s a major focus of hers. With Linda I feel like I’m more of an emotional support.

AstraZeneca: Can you share your top three pieces of advice for other MBC caregivers?

Bob: 1. Take time for yourself. Though this is about the one diagnosed with cancer, it’s important to recognize you also need to accept support from others and make sure you take time out for yourself.

2. Don’t take things personally. Most of the time it’s not about you, although it may seem to be expressed as such.

3. Sometimes it’s not about finding the right words. Sometimes it’s a hug or a touch that’s needed. This may take time to recognize.

AstraZeneca: How have you seen The Tutu Project help MBC patients and their loved ones?

Bob: By the Facebook messages and emails we receive, the images seem to impact those living with breast cancer as well as family members, sometimes even after their loved one has passed. It helps them on a daily basis – brings laughter and humor to their day. They pretty much know that we’re there for them.

While Linda and I were in Germany for a showing of a short documentary about The Tutu Project and gallery exhibit featuring our photographs, sponsored by Deutsche Telekom, we invited people to stop by the exhibit and say hello. One woman came up to us and asked us if we could talk to her friend on the phone. She was still in treatment and unable to travel the several hours to meet us. She cried when she heard our voices. We cried because it was such a touching thing for a friend to do for another.

AstraZeneca: How can individuals support The Tutu Project and the work you are doing on behalf of the MBC community?

Bob: Donations can be made on our website: http://thetutuproject.com/ 

You can also view Bob’s photography at http://thetutuproject.com.

For more information tailored to the needs of MBC patients and caregivers visit www.LifeBeyondPink.com.

All photos from The Tutu Project were taken and are owned by Bob Carey.

 

Update from Linda Carey

AstraZeneca: It’s been a year and half since we first shared your story, can you provide an update on how you are doing?

Linda: It has now been 10 and a half years since my metastatic breast cancer diagnosis.  I’m very fortunate that I’m doing as well as I was when this blog first posted.  It is not always easy. I do have bad days, but overall I have a positive attitude and, while that doesn’t cure my cancer, it certainly helps me live with it. I embrace each day.

AstraZeneca: Can you tell us more about your experiences educating women with metastatic breast cancer and how it has impacted your life? 

Linda: It is rewarding for me to be able to help other women, especially those who were recently diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer.  Generally, I provide emotional support for them.  I think I’m an inspiration to many because I have been living with the disease for over a decade. It can be emotionally draining too.  I recently lost two wonderful friends to the disease. That is a very difficult thing, but it sharpens my appreciation for life every day and reinforces the importance of the work Bob and I are doing to support the breast cancer community.

AstraZeneca: How is the Tutu project going?

Linda: The Tutu project is going great.  We continue to raise funds to help provide financial support to people living with breast cancer and Bob continues to take pictures that put a smile on so many faces.  I’m so grateful to be a part of this program. Having something meaningful to focus on keeps me motivated.  It’s a lot of work, but it is important and positive and I love doing it.